Saturday, August 7, 2021

"What Should We Talk About?"

 Not that this would ever happen. But if it did, here is what I might say.

 Imagine a group of women are on their way to celebrate one of those milestone birthdays ending with a zero. Maybe the first number is a 4.  Friends all. Christians all.  A four-day celebration of friendship and life. 

 Now imagine one of their number says to me, ‘Pastor Bill, could you suggest a good discipline that we could use this weekend to strengthen our friendships and our walk with Jesus?’ (I already said, this would never happen, but play along.)

 So, I say, ‘Sure. This would be a fun exercise in transforming discipleship which would add loads of positive energy to your time together. Read this quote every morning and practice it all day.’

  “An added discipline for this week might be to say nothing negative about anyone else or about yourself. This will give you more energy for inner work on the subject [self-observation]. If you find it a difficult discipline to keep, do not be discouraged. A discipline is to help us learn, and there is often more learning in failure than in success.”Elizabeth O’Connor, Our Many Selves, p. 71 (inward/outward.org)

 ‘Imagine talking about the restaurant that offered slow service due to understaffing without saying anything negative.  Imagine avoiding all negative words about yourself as you sit around the living room at night swapping stories of children and pets and, dare I say, husbands. (Alright, maybe that bit about no negative talk about ‘husbands’ is beyond imagination.)

 Imagine learning a little more each day about how smiles and laughter come much more easily to faces that say nothing negative about anyone else or about yourself. That’s what you should talk about, my friend.’

 Not that this would ever happen.  But imagine if it did. And you were there.

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